MY FAMILY AND I

We all, in a way have been used to so many family customs that, when we reach adulthood, we begin to blame our family and friends or even our childhood for our present condition.

If you grew up in a family where anger, pride or criticism is a common thing, it is most likely that you will also become quick to anger, be proud or love to just criticise yourself or others. This should not be.

If you are that kind of person that follows these unhealthy traditions of your family, friends or the people close to you, you can certainly break yourself away from such unhealthy patterns.

As an example, if you were brought up in a family where you were not allowed to express your anger, it is possible that you may be afraid and find it difficult to deal with confrontations.

It is okay to show that you are angry for certain reasons. As long as you are able to control your anger. You should ensure that your anger is to either help you correct yourself or correct the other person or situation that has caused you to be angry.

As another example, some people may have also been exposed to manipulation and guilt and therefore express themselves through guilt and manipulation. This should not be.

This such of unhealthy behaviour can cause someone to be on the constant go of being apologetic for no reason.

As we grow older each year, some begin to have this false identity and false opinion of themselves which may cause them to disconnect from their true selves and from the wisdom of God.

We have to understand that we can live a healthy life by going beyond our family’s lifestyle and limitations. Remember that if you stay in an unhealthy relationship or display ungodly characters, you will be the one to deal with it not your family.

Let go of the past and the unhealthy habits that have now become a norm in your family. Be the one to break that unhealthy chain.

If you stay in an unhealthy relationship or keep the circle of unhealthy habits that your family or the people close to you have been accustomed to, then you have given that bad and unhealthy habit the power to rule over you.

This can make you mentally unstable.

How can you let go of the beliefs that hurts you?

You have to learn how to be free from this unnecessary cycle of unforgiveness, guilt, pain or anger that keeps you imprisoned in your own suffering.

You have to learn how to create positive affirmations and keep healthy relationships with others.

If you want to be accepted for who you are, you have to be ready and willing to accept others as they are too.

Accepting yourself and others simply means, just giving yourself and others the ability to just be. It means just allowing them to take control of their own lives and making a change when they are ready to.

It is pride and arrogance that makes someone to set standards for others when you have your own troubles to worry about. We can only set standards for our own selves.

The more we appreciate and love ourselves, the more we can practice self-acceptance, and the easier it will help you drop some of your bad habits that no longer serve you or the people around you.

Allow yourself to love today. You can only grow and change in an atmosphere of love. We must see to it that we love others, and we forgive their past behaviours.

Here are some positive affirmations that will help you rise above yours and your family’s poor Patterns.

I LOVE my family.

I allow others to be who they are.

I will make my own healthy decisions.

All my relationships are in a cycle of true LOVE.

I have the power to make changes.

I forgive myself and I forgive others.

I let go of old family limitations.

I set standards and boundaries for myself.

I align with the divine harmony of God.

All my relationships are harmonious and based on LOVE.

I have compassion for my childhood and present self.

I release all criticism.

I flow in LOVE.